We Need to Talk

See this? Yeah, this, right here. This stuff needs to stop. Stop posting this stuff on Facebook, and Pinterest, and Blogs, and all those other places where nonsensical nonsense gather. This graphic is a lie. An appropriate example of a deadly term  women use is “I’m about to shoot you in the face. No really, I have a gun in my hands. I am going to shoot you.” By posting this stupid list, you are perpetuating the myth that women are irrational, incapable of clear speech, and angry all the time. Those ideas are products of gaslighting, a concept that teaches a person that he or she is not experiencing valid feelings. Most of the people I know (women and men) want to be treated like human beings. Perhaps if we stop trying to use code words, we’ll all figure this whole happy-relationship thing out. And someone call these two and let them know that I know how to speak English, and I’m looking for a hot boyfriend. Let’s let them battle it out. 😉



About charliegreenberry

I grew up in the wilds of New Mexico in a strange combination of free and restricted. Now, as I stumble unwillingly into adulthood, I find memories resurfacing. So I dust them off, sand them, slap on a coat of paint and display them with the hopes that at some point they'll make sense and pull the room together. The blog is a space for writing, for sharing, someday sharing without worrying about who is reading it, and a place to practice. Virginia Woolf said, "A woman must have money and a room of her own if she is to write fiction." Well, here's to having a room at least.
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4 Responses to We Need to Talk

  1. jensine says:

    Thanks for the smile, enjoyed your little rant

  2. deshipley says:

    Me, I tend to just say it like it is. (Or as close to it as I happen to know myself.) Still, these code words look awfully familiar to me. A few of my guy characters try to use them all the time.

    1) Lute: “Fine.” = In answer to “How are you?”, this is straight-up denial. The minstrel’s upset and doesn’t want to acknowledge it, because he’s #1 at everything accept handling emotions. Figure out what’s wrong and resolve as soon as possible.

    2) Allyn: “Nothing.” = In answer to “What’s wrong?”, this a waste of a lie. It’s obviously something, and both you and the rest of us probably already know what it is, so stop trying to be stoic and spill, already.

    3) Lute: “Go ahead.” = …or, more likely, “Do whatever you like/think best.” Okay, so you’re firmly against whatever’s about to happen, and this is your passive way of forbidding it, because you know there’s no way we’re going to do it now that you’ve said “do it” in that faux-resigned tone of yours.

    4) Bruno: “Whatever.” = This and “Modify” is the answer for anything he can get away with. The latter’s a joke. The former’s just him not wanting to communicate. And if he wanted to communicate “Screw you”, rest assured, he’d spell it out for ya.

    5) Allyn: “That’s okay.” = …or, more accurately, “It’s all right.” Same deal as “Nothing”. Repeat: Drop the stoicism.

    “Wow.” = What my writing buddy and I say when these guys actually seem to think these non-answers will slide. *Really*, dudes? No. You’re talking. We’re listening. Go.

    So yeah — nothing inherently deadly or female about it. How much simpler things would be if we all just said what we meant and vice versa. For instance, when I say, “Yay! Pic of Cap and Thor!”, I’m being quite serious.

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